Relationships play a big role in understanding maturity, as some of my adolescent readers can testify to. It is hard for adults to deal with affairs of the heart in a mature manner, imagine how much harder it is when you are still trying to figure out who you are. That is why I advise teens to put off relationships for as long as you can. Give yourself a break and wait until you have gained some maturity before you start handing out your heart to be abused by immature, self-centered wanna-be mates.
The problem is, I don't think there are enough people taking affairs of the heart serious at whatever age. Understand that God says that the two become one. When we give our heart away to someone we begin the process. It doesn't matter if you are 14, 24, or 104, giving your heart away is a serious thing that may end in total disaster and heart break, because the two have started the process of becoming one. Our thoughts and emotions begin to intermingle. The final step in the process is the physical act of coming together.
Today we treat sex as if it is a casual thing not understanding that it is the last step of a process, a step that is meant to seal the deal. Do you want to know how far off the mark we are? Today couples do not even understand what it is to be married. To be married I give up my right to my privacy, to it being about me and allowing it to be the other person. Marriages either fall apart or fail to live up to their potential when the two fail to become one and remain as individuals. Here is God's design for you:
"The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife." (1 Corinthians 7:4)
Do you see how complete the surrender is to each other? I no longer live for myself alone but also for my wife. Every action I take affects her as if she is part of me. This is why relationships should never be entered into half-heartedly or with the casual thought that we can tbrow it away if it doesn't work out. Some of you have already fallen victim of a broken heart, when you gave away your heart and it was abused and abandoned.
We need brave mentors who are willing to remind us that thisis not a game but a serious matter. It takes a certain level of maturity where we can see past ourself and live for the benefit of another person. Are we brave enough to set aside our flesh desires until we or someone we trust is able to tell us we are ready? Radical idea I know but love is a radical thing that needs to be dealt with those of some maturity. Broken hearts come from a place of immaturity, a place where we are still the center of the universe. If that's where we are we need to leave love aside until the Lord has prepared us to give ourselves fully to our partner.