Moms are special no matter who they are and what they do.
They could be the best or the worst and still we love them. Of course we
overlook those awkward teen years where many children butt heads with their
parents. With a bit of time, patience, and a whole bunch of unconditional love
we make it past those years to the stage of adult children who realize all the sacrifices
that their mom went through on their behalf. Even if there were mistakes made,
an adult child's perspective helps them realize just how privileged we are to
have our moms.
So many moms try to be the super mom; the mom that every kid
on the street wishes was their mom; the cool mom; the one that has it all
together. They often look around and see a mom like that and feel discouraged, failing
to notice that most moms aren’t like that. Some people have the gift of
organization and others don’t, but organization is not what makes a mom a super
mom. What makes them super is the same thing that makes any person super, which
is, love that compels us to do what is right.
It’s easy to give a child everything they want to win their
affection. It’s easy to play on the emotions to receive a response that makes
us feel good. It is easy to spoil a child with a mistaken notion of love. Yet,
real love is what we find in God and that is emulated in those who have a close
walk with him; it compels us to address the needs not the wants. It realizes
that what a child needs is not what they crave or desire but what is best for
them. A super mom will sacrifice her emotional gratification for the need of
her child. A super mom will “fight” with the urge to “give in” and teach her
child self-control and she understands the difference between need and want. A
super mom will “take it on the chin”; will take on the battle to do what is
right because she loves her children.
This is what we find in our God who is not in this to raise
spoiled children. Oh, come on now, we certainly do act spoiled and bratty but
our Father desires to prepare us for the eternity that is to come. He knows
what we need and will take us through as many learning experiences as we need
to get us to the place of maturity. He will never lose sight of the goal and the
bigger picture even if we might from time to time. Sometimes he has to give out
some pretty strong medicine in the form of correction and lessons but love is
always his motivation. He knows what we need better than what we do and if we
are mature we will thank him for it instead of fighting him on it.
Super moms are just like him in this thing, that they always
keep their eye on the goal. The goal is not to survive these training years but
to step into the responsibility, always understanding that the goal is to
produce mature adults who are prepared to flourish in this ever changing world.
Super moms realize that it is not about them but about their children and the task
of equipping them for what is to come. They don’t protect them from the harsh
lessons they must learn but stand with them in it, guiding them, helping them,
bandaging the cuts and kissing the booboos. They are there to keep the
boundaries in place until they are mature enough to understand why. They make
the tough decisions until the child can make them for themselves. They are
willing to be hated and misunderstood, just like God, taking it on the chin
because love, real love, compels them.
No, the super mom is not the one who produces spoiled
children for the sake of their own emotional gratification but the moms who
make the tough decisions and who stay the course, never giving up and always
doing what is right. Super moms are those who understand God’s great love for
us and share that with their children, in words and by example. We dads could
do with a greater understanding of this example. Our sacrifices are different
from the moms but we still have the same responsibility, to produce mature
adults. Today, we worship our God who has set this example for us, who
continues to pour out this love into us every day of our life, and we celebrate
every mom for who they are and what they represent. We especially celebrate
those super moms who emulate the love of God in our lives.
Thank you mom!
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