Your biggest struggle is produced by your mis-perception of reality. We all interpret truth through the filters we have put in place over the years. How we see ourselves is seldom the truth but instead it is a perception of ourself that we have created for whatever reason. Sometimes that perception is that we are worthless and incapable of doing anything. Why would anyone love me? Sometimes, it is the opposite where we think of ourselves too highly, but more often than not it is the former.
Positive thinking is not that answer. "I know I can, I know I can" is not the answer. Self help books are not the answer. Meditation is not the answer. Loving yourself is not the answer. Seeing yourself as God sees you is.
We need to hit the reset button, to wash away the years and layers of filters we have put in place. We need to come to understand that God has declared us to be holy and blameless. He declared it. He changed the reality of our truth by simply speaking a new reality into being. Just as he spoke light into existence he spoke you into a new creation:
For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. (Ephesians 1:4)
That is our new reality. Wait, there is more.
Not only has he declared us to be creatures of the light, holy and blameless in his sight, he has also made us creatures of great power.
It is not that the power belongs to us but he has filled us with power through the Holy Spirit in us. Not just any power. This is the same power that raised Jesus from the grave and seated him at the right hand of God. This is the resurrection power that pumps through our veins:
I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right handin the heavenly realms. (Ephesians 1:18-20)
That incomparable great power is the reality we live with. You may look in the mirror and see a weak failure who hasn't a clue what tomorrow will bring, but Jesus looks at you and sees a holy and blameless vessel filled with God's resurrection power. He has given you authority and power to face the darkness of this world and overcome. Your part in it is to live and operate according to the reality of Jesus, not according to this foul world.
God has filled you with his strength to overcome his enemy. Because Jesus has overcome we are now able to overcome. Our duty is to take on evil and cast it out. Our duty is to pray and fight for those God loves. Our duty, our act of love, is to throw off any old and false perceptions of self and put on the new garment that Jesus has clothed us in. We stand as champions of the Light, warriors, members of the royal family.
We walk this earth as prince and princesses of the Kingdom, ready to do battle with anything that would come against the name of the King. We speak in the authority of the King, to vanquish those dark spirits of the enemy's realm. You do not fight in your own name but in the name of Jesus. You do not fight in your own strength but in the strength of Jesus. You do not do what you think is best but what God has directed you to do. You do not get tangled in the affairs of this world but press on with God's agenda which is the salvation of this world.
Stop looking in that mirror with your eyes and instead make the decision to start perceiving with your spirit the new creation God has called into existence. You are far more than what you see, know and understand. You are filled with the strength of God, the same strength that the Father exerted in Jesus when he raised him from the dead. A strength far beyond anything this world can harness. Man uses what little power he has to hate and destroy. God uses all his power to love and restore, to build up and increase. And he uses you for that task.
Simply ask God to melt away your mis-perceptions and to allow you to clearly see the new reality he has clothed you with. You are beautiful, holy, blameless and filled with strength because God has spoken this truth into reality. Time to hit the reset button.